Wednesday, August 31, 2011

A Dad's Memorial of a Son he Never Knew


My memorial to my son for the graveside service 8-31-2011 in Lubumbashi, Congo



MARK JOSEPH WALEZA LAYTON (5/20/11-8/24/11)



I didn’t realize how much I could love someone I’ve never seen in person or touched physically. But as Christians we understand our greatest love is for someone we’ve never seen or touched physically – the Lord – and His greater live is present here in great ways.



Each part of our son’s name speaks of God’s grace:

LAYTON

-          he had our name on him since right after he was born

-          he never had another family name

-          he never lived in America but touched many lives in America

-          he had the same last name as my great-grandfather Edwin Layton who was a missionary to the Congo in the 1900s

JOSEPH

-          named after young boy in Congo who Edwin Layton knew and who God used in amazing ways in 1900s in the Congo church (see blog post on 8/23 for more of his amazing story, one of the great stories of missions of its time)

-          that young Joseph died in 1907 but “his works live after him” (Edwin Layton’s memoirs), a short life with lasting impact

-          the biblical Joseph in the Old Testament lived on the African continent and had 2 African-born sons that were adopted in Israel

-          the biblical Joseph in the New Testament was the “adoptive” father of Jesus, his legal father, though not biologically (the legal ancestry of Messiah was very important)

MARK

-          we didn’t know this when we chose this name but Mark was the name of another important young man in Congo church history, one of their first native evangelists (Mark Njoji, see pictures below)

WALEZA

-          Congolese name chosen by Didier, the same name of one of his sons I met today, meaning “of God”

-          Waleza was certainly a gift “of God” (Psalm 127:3)

-          Waleza was always in the special care “of God” (Psalm 139:12-15) and His days were ordained “of God” (Psalm 139:16)

-          We share David’s hope that his son was elected to pass into the presence “of God” where we too will go to him someday though he can’t come to me (2 Samuel 12:22-24), basing our hope not in sentimental feelings but on the sovereign grace and goodness “of God” (Romans 5:6, 8:28-32) to helpless ones such as us

-          We lean on the special care of our Savior to little ones, our Savior who said the kingdom “of God” belongs to “such as these” (Mark 10:13-16, which we must realize is a picture of how all of us are spiritually to enter heaven, helpless, hopeless, dependent, unable to do anything to save ourselves)



A BRIEF LIFE BUT A BLESSED LIFE

- Born into this world May 20, 2011 in Lubumbashi

- Brought into the care of Kitumaini Orphanage right away

- Legally adopted by Phil and Jaime Layton on 6/17/11

- He was never an orphan; he was always in a family

- he knew the loving arms of a mother his whole life (some children never have a loving parent, he had several)

            - Annie Mukotshi told us she would care for him as her own son and she did

- he was loved and cared for by Didier and his wife and Annie, their family, Angelique and her daughter Gracia, and the Kitumaini kids and community

- he had parents in America that loved him more than words can tell

- his 2-year-old white brother Adam knew Mark’s name and picture and smiled when he saw it

- his 5-year-old sister Georgia called him “Marky” and one time when daddy came home from work asked “where’s Marky” (wondering why I hadn’t brought him home yet in the time I was at work ;)

- his 7-year-old sister Annalee would have been the best 7-year-old mommy ever

- his 8-year-old sister Ella loved Mark as much as humanly possible for an 8-year-old to love a brother she’d never met

- above all, he was loved by our Heavenly Father, who knows the pain of giving up His Beloved Son (John 3:16), so that all His adopted children (“whosoever believes”) in Christ shall not perish but rather will share God’s life and infinite love eternally



The Lord gives and the Lord takes away. Blessed be the name of the Lord.

                                                     
                                                                        


                                                                            


                                           



Tuesday, August 30, 2011

Please keep Phil in prayer.  He is going to be burying our son very soon. It has been planned to be done on Wednesday.  I wish I was there to hold his hand.


Some people from outside the church to be praying for:

- Brooke from embassy is travelling in Lubumbashi this week and we hope she can visit the orphanage and meet us which could be good for future adoptions

- At Mark’s funeral Wednesday will be Mr. Etienne (from another orphanage in town, the one who brought the Wilmarth’s twins to Didier and has been a great help to him)

- Mr. Kantenga (the social man from the municipality)

The Rugged Road Made Smooth

I have not heard from Phil yet... I am sure he is in Lubumbashi.  It is hard not having constant contact.  We have gotten so used to instant access to whatever we want.  It is a good time to wait, trust, and PRAY! 

I was reading the other day and, as usual, the verse was so applicable to where we are at:

"I will lead the blind by a way they do not know, in paths they do not know, I will guide them.
I will make darkness into light before them and rugged spaces into plains."  Isaiah 42:16

Even though we read through the Bible, there are so many truths to discover and re-discover!  His mercies are new every day!  He makes the rugged, bumpy road smooth!

http://www.youtube.com/user/liveoakhome#p/a/FB8F06DE98109E1C/0/B6MBI4d6i0o


Where is the goodness of God in trials, in losing loved ones? How can a good God ...? This message was preached on 4/13/2007 and edited for radio in early 8/2011. In God's providence it is playing on the radio the day before Pastor Phil is burying his son Mark Joseph in Congo and trusting the truths of this precious passage from God's Word.

I. God is Faithful (v. 22-24)

II. God is Good (v. 25)

Monday, August 29, 2011

About to fly...again!

A picture of the Ethiopian Airport

Phil and Gabe at the Smithsonian during their three hour delay.  This is a Enola Gay (B-29 bomber)- the uranium for the bomb was from Congo...

Blackbird SR-71

Congo is one of the richest African countries in natural rescources. 

They should be sitting on the plane about to take off from Addis Ababa... Hope I have an email from Lubumbashi in the morning!

What to Expect

Here is a video that Stuart took of the "Guest House" on the compound at Pastor Didiers place.

Gives us a small idea what it will be like for Phil, and a huge reminder of how blessed we are!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m8fwlilwWgw&NR=1


Biblical Meditations from Ethiopia and About Ethiopia


We are almost to Africa as I write this and hope to send where I can find internet after arrival. Our flight was rerouted to fly over Spain, Northern Africa, and down over Egypt to Ethiopia, rather than the normal more direct route, as weather did end up delaying our connection to Congo until Tuesday AM (leaving around midnight Monday U.S. time). Our flight path today takes us over and many nations mentioned in the Bible. Tarshish in the Bible most think refers to Spain and possible Carthage in North Africa. Some of the other nations we flew over were mentioned in Genesis 10:13, Ludites were African tribes west of the Nile Delta, the Anamites lived in North Africa west of Egypt near Cyrene, the Lehabites are identified with the Libyans, and the Naphtuhites lived in Lower Egypt (the Nile Delta region, accoring to NET Bible Notes). Seba has also been identified in Africa perhaps near the areas we’re flying over as well. Egypt’s role in Scripture is familiar to many, but not as many are aware of the significance of and statements about Ethiopia in God’s Word. Since I have extra time with our longer layover today, I thought I’d share some things a little later in the post about the nation we are staying in, in relation to God’s Word.

We are among the few Caucasians on this flight to Ethiopia (there is also a mission team of 7 or 8 young Americans going to Zimbabwe I think and another humanitarian team to another nation). There is an African baby in the row behind who is about the age of Mark Joseph and I have to confess today has been a little more emotional then yesterday the closer we get, and it’s painful to know I won’t be bringing our little son with me on this same flight coming home that I see these other cute African kids on. It still seems somewhat surreal and the shock and sadness is still fresh, and undoubtedly waves still to come. But I find comfort from the Lord who is “a Man of sorrows and familiar with grief … surely He has borne our grief and carried our sorrows” (Isaiah 53:3-4). His mercies were new last morning and will be each day (Lamentations 3, Sunday’s blog post). I am strengthened by the prayers of many on earth, and my mighty Advocate interceding at the Father’s right hand in heaven, and the Spirit’s help in weakness and groans too deep for words. By way of practical physical mercies I was able to get at least 4 hours sleep on this flight, I have emergency row exit legroom, and I have the whole row to myself, and the food and service on Ethiopian Air has been outstanding and far better than my domestic experiences, and the airline is also covering all our meals and lodging for our delays.

Ethiopia is a beautiful country and its people are beautiful, marked by beautiful skin, and a beautiful spirit that seems to be about many of them. An Ethiopian man in our hotel was very friendly to us and as I write there is a sweet couple across the aisle in bulkhead seating with 2 little girls aged 2 and 9 months. They are adorable and are doing quite well considering it’s a 14-15 hour flight. The girls have the cutest braids and smiles that cheer my heart and make me smile – I find it hard to believe any person could look at them in the eyes and not burst into smiles. I am playing peekabo with the older one. They have a secure bassinet in that section that fits into the wall as a baby bed … it brings back fond memories (or at least memories :) of a trip Jaime and I took to Germany when Ella was 2 and Annalee was 6-months. As I post this message we are now checked in to a small hotel in Ethiopia complete with leopard comforters on our beds - I feel like I'm really in Africa now! The city reminds me of Manila, Philippines in many ways, where I spent many years, but here there's not as much traffic and heat.

In God’s providence (different than our plans) our longer route will cause us to miss the only connecting flight to Congo Monday so we will spend the night in Ethiopia then fly to Congo Tuesday morning arriving at noon in Lubumbashi to meet Dider. I sent Didier an email from D.C. airport but am hoping he got the message and doesn’t waste Monday driving to the airport but that God will grant Him instead some rest that day before a busy Tuesday and week. We are concerned for Didier’s health and as you read would ask you say a prayer for his continued and complete healing in every way, and also that we would be efficient in getting done what we need to for the adoption of the Wilmarth twins and not be set back. For now God has chosen to allow us to spend more time getting to know another people who are part of His manifold plan of grace – the Ethiopians. They strike me as a very hospitable, honorable, hard-working people … many of the traits I admire about Filipinos seem to be true of Ethiopians in their own way as well.

God’s plan for the people of Ethiopia is stated in His Word in some special and specific ways (did you know 22 verses in the Bible mention these people, depending on which translation you have?). You may not be reading this blog for a Bible study, but I hope you’ll read to the end of this one and say a prayer for this people group that God cares much about and says much about. When the Bible mentions Ethiopia (or the literal Hebrew Cush in some translations), it’s speaking of a nation that included not only modern Ethiopia, but Sudan and perhaps beyond to the south, and alternate names in ancient times included Nubia and Meroe. History from ancient Egypt, Greece, and Rome consistently portray the people from the nation Ethiopia/Cush as black-skinned Africans, as some Scriptures also seem to acknowledge and allude to this trait, which became proverbial.

Jeremiah 13:23 Can the Ethiopian change his skin or the leopard its spots? Neither can you do good who are accustomed to doing evil.

Jeremiah tells the Israelites (and all peoples) that we cannot change our wicked hearts (Jer. 17:9) that are marked by sin, just as a leopard cannot change its external appearance or an Ethiopian his skin, man cannot change his sin, the most notable thing about him. But God looks past the external things that man finds so notable, He looks to the heart (1 Samuel 16:7), and God can change hearts, Jeremiah argues, and Jeremiah in particular highlights how Gentiles, including black Africans are part of God’s plan of grace.

Ethiopia in the family of Faith in OT Times

Many Bible readers don’t know Jeremiah had a friend who was a black-skinned believer in the Lord from the nation called Cush or Ethiopia/Sudan today. Ebed-Melech befriended Jeremiah and saved Jeremiah’s life and God saved this Ethiopian when the Jews of Israel were destroyed (Jeremiah 38:6-13, 39:16-18). Like another famous Ethiopian later, this man was also a court official with significant responsibility, a eunuch, and a believer in the God of Israel when most of Israel rejected God’s Word.

As I mentioned in a sermon a few Sundays ago, Moses married a wife from this same African nation, according to Numbers 12. This seems to be some 40-years after his marriage to his Midianite wife of his youth, who seemingly had died by then. Possibly this Cushite/Ethiopian wife was part of the “mixed multitude” of Africans and other non-Jews that feared God and came out of Egypt with Israel (Exodus 12:37-38) or part of the foreigners who chose to join Israel and her faith, as the Law repeatedly references. In Numbers 12, Miriam and Aaron objected to Moses marrying her and question his leadership, but God affirms this marriage and Moses’ faithfulness in all his household. More than one writer has noted how striking it is that when Miriam criticizes Moses as he marries a black African, that God strikes Miriam white as snow (leprous) in judgment. John Piper develops further the implications of that passage for Christians who oppose so-called interracial marriages or families (as an aside, biblically and scientifically there is no such things as “races” as biologically defined, we are all part of one race, united in Adam, so we should get rid of the largely evolutionary terms “races” or “interracial”).

Moses’ wife was not the only Ethiopian/Cushite in the family of faith in the OT. There is also Ebed-Melech mentioned earlier (Jeremiah 39:16-18) and others from Ethiopia who became converted Jews during the reign of Ahasuerus. Ethiopia was part of the kingdom that Mordecai the Jew was given a prominent role over in Esther 8:7-10, 9:3-4, 10:1-3 and Esther 8:17 suggests that people in lands and provinces including Ethiopia became Jews, and celebrated Jewish feasts (9:28-32). In God’s providence, in a day when Haman wanted to exterminate the Jews, God greatly expanded the Jews (including converted Jews) with people from India to Ethiopia apparently coming to the Jewish faith! Acts 2:4 and 2:10 records nations of Africa that had God-fearing Jews and proselytes (ethnic Africans who had come to the faith of Israel and come under its laws and worship).

Ethiopia in the New Testament

What God was doing in the days of Esther, a book where He’s not mentioned by name, was spreading His name abroad, so that we read many centuries later of God-fearing “Jews and proselytes” from several nations on the continent of Africa (Acts 2:4, 2:10; Libya/Cyrene on North Africa east of Egypt). “Proselytes” included ethnic Africans who had come to the faith of Israel and come under its laws and worship. One of these Africans carried the cross for Jesus (Mark 15:21) and other Africans from the nations in Acts 2:10 were instrumental evangelists in the early church (Acts 11:20) and prophets and teachers (Acts 13:1, one from Cyrene, another named Simeon who was nicknamed “black,” which NET Bible Notes says is a Latin term meaning black in complexion).

As the gospel spreads from Judea to Samaria in the first part of Acts 8, the first representative of “the ends of the earth” (Acts 1:8 commission) who is witnessed to is a man from Ethiopia who “had come to Jerusalem to worship, and he was returning and sitting in his chariot, and was reading the prophet Isaiah” (from the Jewish Scriptures, Acts 8:27-28). A man named Philip (great name by the way :) meets him and explains the gospel. This Ethiopian court official of the queen of Egypt who had perhaps converted to the Jewish faith earlier now converts to faith in Christ in that chapter. Early church tradition says he brought Christianity into Ethiopia where it spread and churches were soon founded. This study has stirred the heart of another Philip for Africa!

Prophecies about greater salvations for Ethiopia in the future?

In Genesis 12:3 God promises Abram that all nations will blessed in him (gospel and salvation blessings in Christ, according to Galatians 3:8). In the context of Genesis 12, the “nations” specifically included Cush, which is listed first among other nations in Africa in Genesis 10:5-6, and 13. In Psalm 68 there is a prophecy that along with gifts from foreign kings (v. 29) and envoys from Egypt, the nation of Ethiopia or Cush will soon or quickly stretch out her hands to God (v. 31, image of submission and worship). One translation says Ethiopia will “voluntarily offer tribute to God.” Psalm 87:4 further includes Ethiopia among nations who know God (or will come to know God, if taken prophetically). The text seems to describe believers from Ethiopia and other nations as viewed by God as if they were natural-born Israelites.

Amos 9:7 is even more striking:‘“Are you not as the sons of Ethiopia to Me, O sons of Israel?” Declares the LORD.’ (NKJV)

In this prophecy the God of Israel seems to be saying that He cares for and has a future plan for the Ethiopians just as He cares for Israel and has a future plan for Israel and the nations (v. 9). Nations besides Israel will be called by Yahweh’s name (v. 12, an expression for special blessings and relationship, especially in regards to salvation). It’s interesting that Amos 9 is quoted in the Jerusalem Council in Acts 15 as demonstrating that God bringing Gentiles into the church equally with Jews fits with OT prophecy.

Ezekiel 38 lists Ethiopia (v. 5) in the context of nations who will come to know that the Lord is Yahweh (LORD, v. 23). Isaiah 18 is addressed to the land deeper in Africa beyond the rivers of Ethiopia or Cush (v. 1), a people tall and known for their smooth skin (something that stood out to me), a powerful nation feared by others (v. 2). Isaiah speaks of a time after God’s judgment in Isa. 18:7: “At that time a gift of homage will be brought to the LORD of hosts From a people tall and smooth, Even from a people feared far and wide, A powerful and oppressive nation [one translation says “of strange speech”] Whose land the rivers divide— To the place of the name of the LORD of hosts, even Mount Zion.

Some might argue that began to take place in Bible times, with Ethiopians coming to Zion/Jerusalem to worship like the Ethiopian in Acts 8, but some of the passages seem to go further with a fuller fulfillment still to come. Could it be the explosive recent growth of Christianity in Africa (arguably more than on any continent in any century of history in the rate it is growing there since 1900) is fulfilling prophecy and is part of the fullness of Gentiles/nations God saves before He’s done with Israel and the world (Rom 11:26-27)? Zephaniah 3:8 says when God gathers nations in the end times, it’s not just for judgment on nations, Zephaniah 3:9 says “For then I will restore to the peoples a pure language, That they all may call on the name of the LORD, To serve Him with one accord [NIV “shoulder-to-shoulder”]. 10 From beyond the rivers of Ethiopia My worshipers …”

From the heart of Africa, south of Ethiopia (including Congo?) worshippers will call on the name of the true Lord, and we get to meet some of them! May the Lord haste that day when worshippers from Ethiopia, Sudan, Congo, and beyond and every nation are worshipping the Lord shoulder-to-shoulder with us and all God’s multi-ethnic family singing, “salvation belongs to our God and to the Lamb” (Revelation 7:9-10)! I look forward to worshipping with some of my African brothers and sisters in Christ very soon! I hope this encourages and excites some of you as it has blessed my heart.

Sunday, August 28, 2011

BLESSED BE THE NAME OF THE LORD

This song keeps playing over and over in my head. I heard it off one of our kids praise Cd's awhile ago. But now the words ring true in my heart.

Blessed be the Name of the Lord
In the land that is plentiful
Where your streams of abundance flow
Blessed be Your name

And blessed be Your name
When I'm found in the desert place
Though I walk through the wilderness
Blessed be Your name

Every blessing You pour out
I'll turn back to praise
When the darkness closes in, Lord
Still I will say

Blessed be the name of the Lord
Blessed be Your name
Blessed be the name of the Lord
Blessed be Your glorious name

And blessed be Your name
When the sun's shining down on me
When the world's 'all as it should be'
Blessed be Your name

And blessed be Your name
On the road marked with suffering
Though there's pain in the offering
Blessed be Your name

You give and take away
You give and take away
My heart will choose to say
Lord blessed be Your name

I will bless Your name, Lord

You can listen to it if you've never heard it. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Qp11X6LKYY


Right now I assume Phil and the Wilmarth's are flying over the ocean. I never heard when they actually took off.
-Please pray that they may be able to get their connecting flight in Ethiopia. Otherwise they will have to stay the night there and flight to Lubumbashi on Tuesday.


Great is Thy Faithfulness - A Sermon from a Different Kind of Platform Today

In God's providence I woke up at 4:30 this morning and began to meditate on God's mercies that are new every morning and had time to write another entry before we head to the airport. Even in storms, God is there, as are His evidences of mercy. God's "travel mercies" have been on us, and though other areas have been hit by hurricane Irene, as of now it appears our flight to Ethiopia is on schedule. Of course all things are always on schedule in the timing of the God who holds hurricanes and all things in his hand.

Lamentations 3:20 (ESV)
20 My soul continually remembers it and is bowed down within me. 21 But this I call to mind, and therefore I have hope: 22 The steadfast love of the LORD never ceases; his mercies never come to an end; 23 they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness. 24 “The LORD is my portion,” says my soul, “therefore I will hope in him.” 25 The LORD is good to those who wait for him, to the soul who seeks him.
… 31 For the Lord will not cast off forever, 32 but, though he cause grief, he will have compassion according to the abundance of his steadfast love; 33 for he does not willingly [literally “from the heart”] afflict or grieve the children of men.
… 37 Who has spoken and it came to pass, unless the Lord has commanded it? 38 Is it not from the mouth of the Most High that good and bad come?

“Where is the goodness of God when we lose a loved one? How can a good God _____________ (you fill in the blank)? One of Jaime’s friends last year suffered the heart-wrenching pain of losing her unborn baby – how is God’s goodness and faithfulness demonstrated in death of a dear little one?”

That’s how I began a sermon I preached on that passage at our church 4/13/2007 and it was edited for our church radio program in early 8/2011. In God’s providence I believe it is playing this Sunday morning at 6:30 and Tuesday 8/30 at 4:00 p.m. on KFIA 710 a.m., the day before I am preparing to bury my son, a timely reminder of God’s timeless truths and timing. The 2nd half will air the week I am preparing to come home (you can also listen to it online at below links). God is still faithful and God is still good, which I am preaching to myself.
http://www.sermonaudio.com/sermoninfo.asp?sid=82511024441
http://www.sermonaudio.com/sermoninfo.asp?sid=8251102732

I’m not in my church this Sunday as I travel to Congo but thought it fitting to pass along some excerpts from the above sermon, for such a time as this, which hopefully will minister to some in this different type of pulpit and platform God has me in today:

“… how is God’s goodness and faithfulness demonstrated in death of a dear little one? I’ll come back to that story later, but I want you to know that the how questions are part of the book of Lamentations. In fact, the Hebrew name of this book is their word for “How” (ekah) an exclamation of dismay …

“After our great national trauma of Sept. 11, 2001 when the towers fell, so many died and the goodness of the future was called into question, many Christian communities in their hurt, harrow, and despair turned for solace and guidance to an ancient and rather obscure book of the Bible Lamentations. In this book we journey into the dark, dusty, and despairing corners of human hearts, into those times in our collective experience that we would rather forget or avoid. Yet as a people of faith we believe that our God gives us the resources to help us refrain from avoiding or denying the pain and the tragedy. We can grieve, we can cry out. Sometimes we may even clench our fists and cry out why under the conviction that our God cares for us and loves us enough to speak to us even in tragedy … on the cross Jesus gave a powerful answer to the questions proposed by this book of the Bible. In the midst of the most desperate lamentation, mourning the worst tragedy, our God is there, He is with us.”

… We as human beings may have time of great discouragement, or even depression – it is then that we must remember and trust and cling to God’s attributes and character. Our hope is not based on our circumstances or what we can see or our feelings, it is based on what we recall and know about God. We dwell on His attributes and what we know to be true about him, and that is what the author does in the following verses.

… Thomas Watson published All Things for Good in 1663, one year after he and about 2,000 other pastors were ejected from their churches by the Church of England and suffered great hardship and suffering. He speaks from personal experience, but more importantly from a deep understanding and love of God and Scripture, of how this truth was not only theoretical but his heart confidence was in the good God who works all things, including sinful actions and suffering, for His glory and our ultimate good

“No vessel can be made of gold without fire; so it is impossible that we should be made vessels of honour, unless we are melted and refined in the furnace of affliction … As the painter intermixes bright colours with dark shadows, so the wise God mixes mercy with judgment” (p. 26)

“Luther said that he could never rightly understand some of the Psalms, till he was in affliction … A sick-bed often teaches more than a sermon. We can best see the [ugliness of our] sin in the glass of affliction. Affliction teaches us to know ourselves. In prosperity we are for the most part strangers to ourselves. God makes us know affliction, that we may better know ourselves” (p. 27)

“Afflictions work for good, as they are the means of loosening our hearts from the world. When you dig away the earth from the root of a tree, it is to loosen the tree from the earth; so God digs away our earthly comforts to loosen our hearts from the earth.” (p. 29)

“Do not mistake me; I do not say that of their own nature the worst things are good, for they are a fruit of the curse, but though they are naturally evil, yet the wise overruling hand of God dispose[s] and sanctif[ies] them … It is one heart-quieting consideration in all the afflictions that befall us, that God has a special hand in them: ‘The Almighty hath afflicted me’ (Ruth 1.21) … [Job said] The Lord hath taken away.’ Whoever brings an affliction to us, it is God that sends it.” (p. 25)

The great saints of the past believed the reformed doctrine of God’s predestining all things, and that everything ultimately was from him. God’s sovereignty was not an abstract subject for debate in theological chat rooms, it was means for survival

Spurgeon: "It would be a very sharp and trying experience to me to think that I have an affliction which God never sent me, that the bitter cup was never filled by his hand, that my trials were never measured out by him, nor sent to me by his arrangement of their weight and quantity” (see note 51 on Piper’s online biography)

George Muller when his wife died preached her funeral sermon from Psalm 119:68: "Thou art good and doest good."

Sarah Edwards, when she heard that her husband Jonathan had died of a smallpox vaccination at the age of 54, she wrote to her daughter: "What shall I say? A holy and good God has covered us with a dark cloud. O that we may kiss the rod and lay our hands on our mouths! The Lord has done it. He has made me adore His goodness, that we had him so long. But my God lives; and He has my heart. O what a legacy my husband, and your father, has left us. We are all given to God; and there I am and love to be."

Going back to a dear friend of my wife’s who I mentioned in the beginning of the sermon lost her child. How does the truth of this message work itself out in real life in our day and age?

Here is one example (and notice not only a high view of God’s sovereignty, but notice the affirmations of God’s goodness through the trial):

Date: Wed, 13 Sep 2006 16:47:51 -0700 (PDT)
From:
Subject: "The blow of His hand"

Dear Friends,

The Lord is my Shepherd, I shall not want. There is nothing outside His care and I am thankful for His goodness to me and my family. Two days ago, I started to spot and was able to see the doctor today to check if [our] Baby was still alive. It was obvious to me as the ultrasound magnified my little bundle of joy that my baby was with the Lord. The Lord took His child home ten days ago and my body is now slowly rejecting the baby. It was a sad moment but I thank the Lord for His goodness and His love that allowed this to happen from start to finish. My baby's work is done. The world may say "It was not meant to be" but I say yes it was. For the Lord, used this little one to teach me a life lesson in trusting Him. I am thankful that I can say that what Jesus did for me on the cross, that my Heavenly Father is my shepherd, my provider, my protector, my comforter, and my all in all.

The Lord has shown His goodness these last two weeks. Not knowing I had lost the baby, He alllowed for my heart to be prepared to be comforted by a message written by a woman who almost lost her baby. She writes that no matter what the end result was in the life of her child, that she was to rest in His hand and trust in Him. My thoughts dwelled on God's sovereignty character and that all He allows works together for my good and His glory. In His goodness, He has allowed for me to slowly lose the baby with no major bleeding or cramping but I am particular in awe that He did not allow for me to lose the baby any other week but this week of which [my husband] has off from his teaching job. What amazes me the most about our Lord is care, love and perfect timing. I started to spot on Monday, of which [my husband] had off from both jobs … I been able to manage with the boys on Tuesday and today with the Lord grace and [my husband’s] help during the day, but tomorrow, he will be off again from both jobs which will be helpful because I am schedule for a DNC. All, that to say, God is so gracious and good to care for me and my family during this sad loss in our lives. Praise the Lord.

Thank you for praying for [our] Baby … God has answered our prayers in more ways than you know.

In Spurgeon’s book, Beside Still Waters, he writes "Some have learned to trust the smile of His face, but they must also learn to trust the blow of His hand." As we all well know, both are for our good and His glory. This quote was written in the woman’s article whose message encouraged me and was used to prepare me for this day.

To God be the Glory,

Saturday, August 27, 2011

Quick Update from D.C.



Just a quick update on the trip. I am writing from the hotel that Ethiopia Airlines is putting us up in as we wait for our flight which departs tomorrow around noon EST at which point the weather shouldn’t be too bad (up to 23mph, clearing up in afternoon). Hit some turbulence on our descent to Dulles International this afternoon, but was good for our prayer lives ;) The wind hasn’t been bad since we’ve been here, but the atmosphere feels very much like Hawaii, I guess that’s why they call it a tropical storm. More importantly, had some good gospel conversations with a lady sitting next to me on the plane, sharing my story and what the gospel did in the Congo years ago (Tuesday 8/23 post below). I even got a 15-20 minute nap, periodically interrupted by the 21-month-old next to me tapping me on the arm. He was sweet. Thankful to be getting a good night sleep tonight and a clean shower and then a full day of flying tomorrow, 13 hours D.C. to Ethiopia, then a few more to Lubumbashi.

Do you think we have enough bags? That's Gabe on the right.

Friday, August 26, 2011

The Layton Family History in Congo - Next Chapter

The Layton Family History in Congo – the Next Chapter

When I wrote the below post Tuesday about my family’s history in Congo, I would have never expected or written the next chapter in this story this way. But I know God has written all our days before there was one of them, as I quoted in my sermon last Sunday (Psalm 139:16). And I know He is and will be always with us as the same Psalm says, and has good purposes that are far bigger than us and what we’re going through in His manifold wisdom and grace, as I also shared last Sunday. The pain is real and deep but the precious promises of God’s Word are as well, and I am so thankful for what God has already taught me through His Word, and will teach me.

Lord-willing tomorrow I leave early to fly to D.C. with our friends the Wilmarths, then to Congo Sunday or the next chapter in God’s story for our family in that country. I say “the next chapter” because I know this is not the end of the story which God is writing, but it is the next chapter and I have to go one page at a time. We don’t have God’s “Table of Contents” for our life, but as of right now, the outline for next few pages is:
- Arrive Monday noon (please pray for God’s grace in the weather on East Coast which could affect or delay our travel, which God is of course sovereign over as well)
- Tuesday will be busy around town doing whatever necessary to get the exit visas for the Wilmarth’s twins, #1 objective of this trip, which we’re all eager and prayerful for God’s grace in
- Wednesday 8/31 at some time will be a small private burial for our son that I will share some things at. This will not be a public or church event. In God’s providence, there are less than 10 of us who know the situation and Didier feels it best to keep it that way, at least for now. In their culture, if the church knows of this loss, they will be at Didier’s house 24/7 for a week and would need to be fed and would prevent us from getting much else done. I trust his wisdom and God’s and don’t want attention drawn away at all from the #1 object of this trip so am thankful for that as well.
- Also I will be delivering a couple suitcases full of gifts and practical things from our church family here to the orphanage and Didier’s family in the spirit of 2 Cor. 8-9, which is my great privilege to try to be for them as Titus was for the Corinthians
- Lord-willing my friend Gabriel Wilmarth and I hope to have time to also build a raised garden for the orphanage
- Didier has asked me to preach at their church 9/4 AM through him as an interpreter, which I am honored to do and ask your prayers that I would have time and ability to do adequately without normal preparation time. He said I don’t need to share anything about my son but to preach a message on the importance of God’s Word in the life of a Christian. This will be a great privilege and honor to seek to minister to the Congolese people that my great-grandfather had such a heart for, and who I wanted to minister to in some way after meeting Didier last summer. I pray God will help me minister to them and especially Didier and his wife for the good God intends, to borrow words from another Joseph (Genesis 50:20).

Thank you for your continued prayers and love and we look forward to see what God will write in future pages and chapters of our story, for His glory.

Thursday, August 25, 2011

The Lord gave and the Lord has taken away

We were informed yesterday morning that our son Mark Joseph Waleza Layton has passed away. Suddenly and unexpectedly, Mark started having a hard time breathing. He died on the way to the hospital in Pastor Didiers arms. He did not appear to be sick before this began. Although we do not understand God's plan we trust and love Him. Our hearts are heavy, but we praise Him for He is good, all the time.

Please pray:
-for our children to comprehend God's grace in this
-for Pastor Didier and his wife Annie, and the family in Congo, who have loved Mark as their own for 3months

We love you and we are so thankful for you all, we treasure your prayers on our behalf!

'And he said, "...the Lord gave, and the Lord has taken away. BLESSED BE THE NAME OF THE LORD." In all this Job did not sin or charge God with wrong.' Job 1:20-22

"God is our refuge and strength a very present help in trouble." Psalm 46:1

Below is the update we also sent out today by email

Dear church family and friends,

It’s been less than 24 hours since the sudden news of our son Mark Joseph’s death was shared with many of you. God’s grace and comfort has already been abundant and though we can’t respond to every person who has expressed love and prayers to us, please know how thankful and blessed we feel and how merciful our Sovereign Savior is and has been to us already through you.

I (Phil) am still leaving this Saturday for my trip, arriving in Congo Monday, with a different type of ministry and mission in mind than originally planned (humanly, but our God is big and good and has His wise ways which are not ours, He has planned this before there was time). My mission is to travel with our dear family friends the Wilmarths as originally planned to support them in the adoption of their twins and to be of ministry to the family of Christ in Congo and the orphanage in any way I can. For those who have asked how you can help or pray, here is the update for now:
- Thank God with us for His mercy in so many things, that we want to remember, rehearse to our hearts and our children, and recount for others for the glory of Christ
- Pray for God’s manifold grace and purposes in my son’s funeral/burial I will get to be a part of in the Congo next week.
- Pray that I would be of great encouragement to Pastor Didier, his wife Annie, and his family, in the spirit of 2 Corinthians 1:3-5, 7, 11, 15, 2:4, 8, 3:5, 4:7-10, 15-18, 5:7-9, that they would not lose heart in doing good and that God would heal them in every way from the trauma and tragedy of witnessing the loss of one who was a son to them as well
- Pray that I would be a good ambassador for Christ (2 Cor. 5:20) and to comfort the depressed with my coming (7:6, 8:6-12), that even with the language barrier the love of Christ would come across
- Pray that I would be able to express the love of our family and church to our church family in Lubumbashi in some way on Sunday, Sept. 4th (Saturday evening our time)

We do have some room to still bring a few things to Congo, and it may be easiest if you drop them by the church for now and I will pick them up sometime tomorrow. Lord-willing I or Jaime will be sharing updates at our blog as able.

http://lifeatthelaytons.blogspot.com

We continue to treasure your prayers and care and love and we rest in the sweet and Sovereign hands to whom we give all our children and all things, and pray God will use us weak vessels to magnify our Strong Savior.

Love in Christ,
Phil and Jaime

Tuesday, August 23, 2011

Layton Family History in Congo

At the turn of the 20th century, my great-great-grandfather Edwin Layton was a pioneer medical missionary to the Congo (then under Belgian rule, referred to as the Belgian Congo). That’s him on the upper right of below newspaper article, Chicago Sunday Tribune April 10, 1904. My grandpa’s sister is the baby. Here are some excerpts from his diary memoirs, written this very month 109 years ago (August 1902):

‘For fifteen years, the work had its “ups and downs” – mostly “downs” … it was a dark hour … We hope for a spiritual awakening but we must ‘learn to labor and wait’ [August 8th letter to mission society]
“… The outlook is indeed hopeful.” [August 29th] “… To us, the present condition and outlooks is exceedingly hopeful. For the past 6 months … there has been a growing interest in our meetings …”

[How did it start? An earlier letter to the Mission Society explained]
“… Turning from this dark picture, however, there are some visible results of the work here which seem like light amid darkness. The life and labors of a boy called “Josefa” is an example. His name is appropriate for, as a child, he was sold into slavery and carried to foreign parts of the very land where ancient Egypt was situated … He is a hopeless cripple…this “poor, broken vessel” was chosen by the “Lord of the harvest” rather than the “wise” and “mighty” of us whose “calling” was [missionary] … Josefa as a child was carried into captivity by the Bankundo, a strange tribe and tongue. Seen by an early English missionary, he was set free from slavery and at that Mission heard the Good News and found salvation from sin.
… a hopeless and helpless cripple was destined to be the most important factor in the establishment of a native church … Violent contracting muscles broke the diseased bones and the body was covered with boils and ulcers.

He suffered excruciating pain and bent and broken, his body is beyond repair and he remains as uncomely as a leper. Yet Josefa did not “curse God and die.” Through long years, no comforter was found among his own people for he was the only one who knew and trusted God. The medical missionary ministered to him; the Unseen Comforter was there … [unable to make it to the missionary meetings, he heard others at night] around the campfires, they rehearsed the events of the day and Josefa, the stay-at-home, would hear an accurate account of all the white missionary had said and done. He never went to church or school in those days although he could hear the singing at the services. But he came to have the reputation of knowing well “the Words of God”. He held a meeting every night even though but one or two might come. There in that grove in darkest Africa was held a primitive prayer meeting. There indeed many members of the Church today [in Congo] sang that first Lunkundo hymn, “Yesu andango” – “Jesus Loves Me” …

… In the early days of our work, Josefa was overlooked – and no wonder! He was an invalid, unable to move or be moved. Moreover his tongue was partly paralyzed and his vocabulary was a mixture of three dialects. He stammered an almost unintelligible speech … Not without pain, he was carried in a deck-chair by four …[to] meetings … he would say but a few words but his presence in the “pulpit” was essential. The house was packed night after night, and the interest became intense. The beginning of 1902 saw a spiritual awakening up and down the Congo. Locally, it came at a time when least expected, five of the seven missionaries had gone home for health … many [of the Congo natives] were asking “What must we do to be saved” and some had “brought forth fruits worthy of repentance” …

[back to August 9th letter] As many as 23 have asked to be taught the WAY more perfectly [desiring] baptism. These are men and women who have listened to our message from the first. For many “moons” they have professed to love God and have desired to serve Him. There is evidence that they are earnest and sincere. These inquirers meet regularly every day. The outlook is indeed hopeful.”

[Letter at end of August 1902] “… Our little chapel which seats perhaps 200 is always filled to overflowing. For some months we have had to have a meeting in the morning and again at night.”

[The missionary’s annual report called this year] “a great awakening … One day a large crowd came from another town seeking “Baoi ba Nzakomba” – the “Words of God”. After that, a hundred or more in number… attended all our meetings. Bolenge itself awakened at the same time. Meetings were held twice a day and the meeting house was packed. The interest was intense…”

… Another…spectacular scene, was when the delegation of a hundred or more appeared suddenly from the interior [of Congo]. When this long line of savages darkened the palm walk leading to our bungalow, it was like a black thunderbolt out of a clear sky. There had been no intimation of such a movement … The leader, an eloquent and earnest man, stated their purpose as they all stood attentively before our veranda. They were deeply concerned about their “baoi babe” (“bad words” – which might be called their conception of sin) and had come as a delegation to get the “Baoi ba Nzakomba” (Words of God) in their “botema” (“stomachs”, their seat of feeling and intellect). “Where was our [church]”? – And we led the way to the church. They were certainly earnest inquirers. Our village folk were impressed by it and stirred up. They were ashamed to “sit down” and not heed “the wonderful words of life.”
[As they got saved, their version of tithing was each believer gave 10% of earnings so that every 10th believer could be supported and] set aside as evangelists, to tell the Good News, so there was one preacher from the first ten and ten out of the first hundred and so on, supported by the remaining number.

So the saying was fulfilled in Darkest Africa, “The people which sat in darkness saw a great light”. The day came for the first baptisms. We went down to the beach and before a large crowd on the bank–Josefa, in his hammock, among them … loved and respected by all. The Christians see in him their father in the Faith. He [went] in his hammock even to villages beyond the swamps to preach the Good News … He lived to see hundreds, even thousands, turn from darkness to light. He died February 8, 1907, but his “works live after him.”’

-- Memoirs of Edwin A. Layton

The story is also told in Bolenge: A Story of Gospel Triumphs on the Congo, by Eva May Dye, published in 1909

Thursday, August 18, 2011

One Down, One to Go...

The first appointment at the US Embassy in Congo was today. The representative, Danielle, has been helping us for the past few months getting appointment dates and all our documents in order for Marks Visa approval.
She got to meet him today. This is what she said:
"The baby was asleep, and wrapped up for a winter storm... sweater and wool hat... it is a cool 85 degrees today!" :)
I don't know if they feel cold, but they always have the baby bundled up ridiculously (at least to me). I'm sure on top of the sweater and hat he was wrapped in a blanket too.

Sunday, August 14, 2011

We have tickets!

We just purchased Phil's ticket to go to Congo to get Mark Joseph. Phil will leave August 27th and be back on September 9th. We are busy getting all the paperwork ready and preparations done for him to go!
We have the huge blessing of knowing the other adoptive family, the Wilmarth's. We met Gabe and Josie Wilmarth about 14 years ago at the first Bible Study we ever attended at Grace Community. They moved up to N. CA a few years before us and attend a local church that has become like a sister church to us. In March they decided they wanted to adopt the twins that had just arrived at the orphanage. We were overjoyed to be able to share this experience with them. Now they actually get to travel together, with Phil to Lubumbashi to get their children!
Right now Pastor Didier has taken Mark and the twins to the capitol of Kinshasa. They needed to go there to get passports and to go to the Embassy for their Visa appointments. It would be like us traveling to Texas to get a passport. But it was the only way.
They have Embassy appointments August 18th and 22nd to turn in all the required documents for the Visas. We are so thankful to Pastor Didier, he is doing all of this for us so that we don't have to spend so much time in country.
Pastor Didier is such a faithful, hardworking, committed man. He is so dedicated to getting these children adopted that he never stops. Right now he has malaria, typhoid, and an ulcer. Please pray for him. Pray that he gets better and has the strength to endure.
We recently got Mark's passport picture. It was the first clear picture we have seen of him. (There is nothing on his chin, just a dirty lens.)

So the long awaited day is finally coming. We see the light at the end.
And yet, it is all just beginning... :)